So a friend recommended Harry Potter to me and I finally decided to see what the fuss was all about. Well, needless to say, I ended up doing a marathon and am only slightly embarrassed to report that I may have teared up when Harry’s owl was killed trying to save him from Voldemort.
But besides the owl, there was one other bird that really caught my attention, and that was Fawkes. Albus Dumbledore’s phoenix that rises up from its ashes every time it is killed/dies. To quote Spock, it’s nothing short of “fascinating”.
“Fawkes is a phoenix, Harry. Phoenixes burst into flame when it is time for them to die and are reborn from the ashes.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
And I was thinking about Fawkes and phoenixes in general today, realized I had no idea where the whole “rise like a phoenix does from its ashes” thing comes from, googled it, read up and now that my curiosity has been satiated, I have been thinking AGAIN, albeit about deeper things this time.
So you know, a phoenix has to self-immolate/be killed/die in order for it to be reborn of it’s own ashes. And I noticed this kind of pattern in my own life. And if you think about it, maybe you will notice it in yours too.
Hear me out.
I realized that every time life has hit me with some really tough blows, and major ‘unwanted’ changes have come my way… and all those times where I have wondered ‘why me, why is this happening to me’… all those times were exactly the moments where my rebirth needed to happen.
Of course, it is much easier to realize this looking back in hindsight. When you’re in the actual moments, while those life-altering or heart-breaking or earth-shattering moments are happening to you, you basically believe the universe hates you. Whereas on the contrary, it’s exactly the opposite. The universe loves you (always has and always will), and recognizes that you have entered a sort of ‘comfort zone’ that may seem nice to you right now, but is not your path for this lifetime…. and you are too damn stupid, lazy, stubborn or just plain blind to realize this on your own. So the universe resorts to taking drastic steps. In order to slap you awake.
It shakes things up, rattles you a thousand times over, makes all hell break loose, turns your life upside down and inside out. And when the storm has passed and you’re left standing there with only a semblance of the life you lived all around you…. THAT, my friend, is the moment. From that moment on, your job is to pick up the pieces (actually, leave them there, best I feel – why carry old, negative energy with you?), and just walk on. Onwards, forwards and upwards.
Because when you feel like you’re left with nothing of what you once wanted, that is when you can begin to redefine what you want, what you need, what you will put up with in your life, and what you won’t. These are special moments. Life defining moments. And I for one am supremely thankful that they came to me in my life at the exact times I needed them.
And not just me, they happen to every single person. Life has a way of getting to what you think is its worst/lowest point ever, before showing you how much AWESOMER your life can be than what you had imagined. And when you can see that, that is the moment you start to rise from the ashes.
So.. to every single person reading this.. if you’ve had shit hit the ceiling in your life, whether it was related to work, your career, your family life, your significant other.. anything/anyone that you once held important in your life that left your life.. remember, it was the universe shaking things up, because that particular thing/person did not belong in your life. There was/is something better that you’re meant to have, so you had to be stopped from putting up with mediocrity. And the only way to bring this super duper awesome thing you were born to have to you, was to make the required space for it in your life, simple. It doesn’t make the thing/person that is gone bad, it just makes it/them not right for you, not for this lifetime. You needed to be told that and shown that, so the universe did you a favor and sent the storm your way when it did.
So now, rise up and look (like baby Fawkes above).. at all the new possibilities and the awesomeness ahead of you. 🙂 I don’t know why, but this thought always makes me smile, and it makes me thank the universe over and over again. The thought that the best times of my life are now, and coming at me from a place in the future. A brand new life to live and you can bet it’s going to be awesome.